You are totally own expressed?
It is not always easy to know exactly what he thinks. You want, you really want, and then ... There is great but you stopped. And then there are those moments where you say exactly what you mean, and it turns out to be right, with disastrous consequences. So what?
Much! Among them:
Awareness
Acceptance
Assertiveness
Self-esteem
Self-esteem
It is very important that you think, say and do, is in complete alignment, otherwise chaos will follow.
Remember the times when you wanted to say something witty, significant and affect, only to find yourself saying: "I wanted to, I would have said ..."
Then there are times I'd like to get every word out of his mouth, including breaks, commas, and new paragraphs.
REVIEW:
What causes it?
Is it based on fear?
Are you afraid of rejection?
Are you afraid of approval (with a maximum of the highest level.)
Are you driven by the need for "deep" to please other people, including his parents, classmates, friends, colleagues, clients?
As an adult, you are always looking for approval and fear that you can not do that if you say the wrong thing?
What causes you to speak without thinking!
Are you overwhelmed by too much knowledge?
Do you feel the need to spit all, no matter the consequences?
This judgment of the driving force behind your swing?
Will it be "less than" if you do not speak now?
Will it be "superior", provided there is a sense of self-importance?
OPTIONS:
The increased awareness of what is happening will help you do something about it.
Get clear about the causes will help you identify your estate.
Knowing what your estate will help you find the balance between aggressive thoughts and or passive, speech and behavior.
Search knowledge that once identified the problem, which can be edited, processed and maintained.
Assertiveness is an essential element to be fully self-expressed.
We know there are many alternatives to become authoritarian.
Accept the fact that you're not a robot.
Start the process where you are, not where you wish you had been.
ACTION PLAN:
Start by having strong opinions, no matter what the topic is.
It's good for your opinions even if they are unpleasant. Owning!
Remember opinions are your perception of the facts, and not necessarily the facts, however, anyway.
Losing the fear of being wrong!
This will help you build your self-esteem.
Awareness is everything. Consider the symptoms or withhold, or speak without thinking and analyzing.
Identify the real causes. Accepting the reality of it.
If it's a psychological problem, talk to a professional.
It might even be a physiological problem that makes you think hard what you mean. Talk to your family doctor.
Take a course in assertiveness, join a Toastmasters club or hire a coach who specializes in helping people lined up in what they think, say and do. This is crucial.
Do all of the above!
More importantly, be who you are! As your self-esteem and sense of self-esteem will be a big boost, and you can build from there.
The main component to be fully self-expressed is authenticity and transparency, but their own thoughts, opinions, and their way of being. It's what you are!
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